February is American Coronary heart Month.
Fifteen years in the past in February, the month our nation dedicates to cardiovascular well being for American Coronary heart Month, my 34-year-old husband had a cardiac arrest in entrance of me. Two months earlier, simply earlier than Christmas, our first son had been born. We would been navigating the upside-down days and nights of recent parenting and felt prepared for an journey.
On President’s Day weekend, we headed to a close-by path so my husband, Ed, might run and I might comply with behind with the stroller. We parked on the trailhead and Ed mentioned, “See ya,” kissed my brow, and disappeared into the winter daylight.
He looped again to us each 10 minutes or so to make foolish faces at our child earlier than setting off once more on the path. On one such loop, Ed appeared via the timber and got here to a cease about 20 toes forward. Lined in sweat and respiration closely, he swayed ahead a bit of. With concern in his eyes he mentioned, “I do not really feel good” — and I knew one thing was unsuitable.
I parked the stroller within the shade, rushed to my husband, and led his staggering physique to a close-by bench. Via spotty cell service, I dialed 911 simply as Ed’s physique collapsed onto the bench. His open eyes had been empty and vacant, and he was respiration heavy, labored breaths. I kneeled beside him and screamed into the timber for assist — keen my name to discover a cell tower.
I hadn’t observed a crowd gathering till two bystanders approached the bench and lifted my husband’s physique to the bottom. They mentioned that they had some type of medical coaching and commenced monitoring his pulse. When the 911 dispatcher lastly answered, she requested if my husband was respiration. He was, nevertheless it wasn’t something I might ever heard earlier than — lengthy, rattling inhales each 20 to 30 seconds. I did not know if it counted as respiration.
“Ought to I begin CPR?” I requested the dispatcher, however she wasn’t certain. I used to be a trainer educated in CPR, however I used to be additionally a spouse and new mom who was panicked.
“Please! Anybody! Does anybody know CPR? Can anybody assist?” I pleaded into the rising crowd.
Nobody was keen to assist with out a face protect, so it got here right down to me. Simply because the 911 dispatcher advised me to start out CPR, a person ran up asking questions.
“How lengthy has he been down? Does he have a pulse? Has anybody known as 911?”
He had an authority about him that made me belief that he knew what to do. The person advised me to kneel subsequent to Ed and administer breaths whereas he did compressions. Gravel dug into my knees, and a girl within the crowd held my child whereas a stranger’s arms helped my husband’s coronary heart beat inside his unconscious physique. I hoped it was sufficient.

From left: Ed, Jacque, Elliot and Steve Silici on the Woodside Hearth Station two months after Steve saved Ed’s life, April 2007
When the ambulance arrived 20 minutes later, Ed was nonetheless alive, however barely. Medics defibrillated him and lifted his physique onto a gurney. As first responders labored on my husband, it was as if I used to be watching all the pieces happen from a far-off place. None of it felt actual.
Within the ER, I realized Ed was comatose and had suffered a harmful disruption to his coronary heart’s rhythm, which led to cardiac arrest. I could not face our dwelling alone, so I lived within the ICU ready room with my new child for 10 days — ready to see if my husband would survive.
Miraculously, he did.
After Ed awoke from his coma, he underwent a myriad of checks. The medical doctors had been astonished to search out no injury to his coronary heart or mind. He had short-term reminiscence loss and no recollection of the day he collapsed, however he was anticipated to make a full restoration. We’d go dwelling a household of three.
I do know now that 90% of people that undergo out-of-hospital cardiac arrests (OHCA) don’t survive. Of the ten% who do, many undergo mind harm. Essentially the most essential think about survival is the time it takes to provoke CPR. Whereas my husband’s healthcare group might discover no genetic or bodily markers as a trigger for his coronary heart’s rhythm to misfire, they had been unanimous he was alive due to the person on the path who carried out CPR.
Steve, I realized his title later, was an off-duty firefighter-paramedic. He’d been on a stroll with buddies the day my husband collapsed. I realized Steve labored with the American Coronary heart Affiliation (AHA) to carry CPR coaching in the neighborhood and native excessive colleges. There was a motive he exuded confidence on the path; he’d devoted his profession to saving lives.
On the day of my husband’s cardiac arrest, I wished to be the calm one that might save somebody’s life with my CPR coaching, however I anxious I might make it worse if I did not do it proper. Many individuals, like me, fear they will not bear in mind easy methods to do CPR, in order that they’re afraid to start out. Others fear about administering mouth-to-mouth to a stranger. In 2012, the AHA modified its pointers to hands-only CPR, growing the percentages of bystanders taking motion in a cardiac emergency. Now there is not any want to fret about rescue breaths — push laborious and quick in the course of the chest at a charge of 100 compressions per minute (the beat of Stayin’ Alive by the BeeGees).
After the hospital, Ed met Steve, and we had an opportunity to thank him — although no phrases felt sufficient. We’ve stored in contact through the years. At birthday events, vacation gatherings and journeys to the firehouse, he is seen our household develop by one other son and witnessed our oldest evolve from an toddler in a stroller to an impartial teenager, practically as tall as my husband.
I don’t dwell on the occasions of 15 years in the past, however every February I am reminded that on a regular basis heroes exist. A stranger saved my husband’s life, gave my boys their father and granted us a second likelihood at household — all as a result of he knew CPR.

Jacque and her household having fun with a trip in Lake Tahoe in 2021. From left: Jacque, Charlie (8), Elliot (15), Ed