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I’m Not Good; That’s OK


My former psychiatrist and therapist Dr. Lev and I spent quite a lot of time discussing how my considering and behaviors exemplified a black-and-white or all-or-nothing stance. I had a troublesome time being anyplace within the grey space. The considered being mediocre was unfathomable to me.

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After my mother and father divorced in 1982, my mom returned to high school and up to date her information of pc science. She realized the then-current languages like FoxPro and Dbase. She obtained her first job writing software program at a analysis firm on Lengthy Island. After six months, she obtained her first assessment. When she didn’t get “wonderful” throughout the board, she stop and began her personal customized software program agency that was extraordinarily profitable.

Anorexics are sometimes perfectionists. We will’t tolerate being something lower than the perfect. In restoration from anorexia, it’s been troublesome for me to tolerate my physique, which I see as imperfect. Since my stroke in mid-2018, I attempt to come from a stance of physique neutrality, quite than one among physique positivity or loving my physique. Physique neutrality permits me to understand my physique for what it’s able to doing, as an alternative of specializing in its look. Since having the stroke and having to principally relearn to stroll, I’m rather more appreciative and conscious of the miracle of the seemingly easy capabilities of the human physique (and thoughts) and fewer prone to take them as a right.

As a author, the deadline usually comes earlier than I’m able to relinquish my submission. When is my essay ok? By no means. I make revision after revision till I can’t stand to take a look at it yet one more time. I cringe and hit the “submit” button, because the deadline is closing in.

I got here throughout this poem that resonated with me. I felt like sharing it.

Love for Imperfect Issues

By Haemin Sunim

It’s okay that you’ve got flaws.
How might our lives be as clear and white as a swan?
Life naturally takes a toll
on our our bodies, our minds, and {our relationships}.
Fairly than selecting a life by which you do nothing
for concern of constructing a mistake,
select a life that improves by way of failure and ache.
And shout out loud to your struggling self,
“I really like you a lot.”

I hope you loved this poem as a lot as I did.

Thanks for studying.

Andrea

© Andrea Rosenhaft

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From LOVE FOR IMPERFECT THINGS by Haemin Sunim, revealed by Penguin Books, an imprint of Penguin Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random Home, LLC. Copyright © 2016 by Haemin Sunim. English translation copyright © 2018 by Deborah Smith and Haemin Sunim.

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